We’ve all been there in that situation at some point, not sure of what to say or how to say it. Sometimes just being there for a friend is the best thing you can do. Just listen, we don’t need to have all the answers but we can help someone going through these rough times. Let’s be there for those on the tough road to growing their families and show them how loved they are.

I’ve been on the receiving end to most of these all to common scenarios that can be unintentionally very hurtful. By spreading awareness we can help each other on how to address this topic.

What not to say:

• Starting off any sentence with “at least”

• Why don’t you just adopt?

• Stop trying and then you’ll get pregnant

• Don’t stress

• You’re lucky you don’t have kids yet, they drive me crazy

• At least you already have a one kid!

• Just do IVF…

What to say:

• I’m so sorry!

• I don’t know what to say, but I’m here for you.

• I may not be able to relate with you but I can listen.

• It ok to not be ok

• Your feelings are valid

What to avoid:

• Telling a story about another friend’s experience whose was more difficult than their own

• Complaining about your kids…it’s best to find another friend to vent to!

• Avoiding them all together because you have kids and you think it will make them feel uncomfortable. It actually won’t, it will only make them feel like an outcast.

What to do instead:

• Let them know you’re thinking of them.

• Send a text, drop a treat off or offer to help them.

• Still invite them to events, baby showers, kids birthdays and give them grace if they don’t come.